There is no easy, simple, or sweet way to say this – we live in a world full of dis-ease and disease. You may wondering what I mean by dis-ease, but it’s really self-explanatory: when you are uneasy, uncomfortable, or unsure – you are in a state of dis-ease.
It is no wonder that cancer, multiple sclerosis, lupus, and so many other ailments are noted as diseases – how can you be at ease when your body is essentially attacking you?
The truth is, 99% of all diseases have been linked to issues of stress – the ultimate dis-ease. It makes sense then that when an individual is diagnosed with a disease s/he is assigned to a physician, a neurologist, and a therapist. This team of practitioners is supposed to work together to ensure that the patient does not internalize any additional stress or the condition can worsen and the treatment will become ineffective.
Ironically, though many doctors, scientists, and even patients will agree that dis-ease is the main contributor (and predictor) of disease, most do not include comprehensive measures for prevention in their practice. Try telling your doctor, “I don’t exercise like I should, but I do daily mantra meditations,” and watch the look on her or his face.
Unfortunately, black and brown people are the primary candidates for dis-ease and diseases. Each and every day we live with a knowing: we know that we’re different, we know that we will likely have to work twice as hard for half as much, and we know that we probably won’t be able to “prove beyond reasonable doubt” that what we’re experiencing at work, at the store or at that lovely restaurant is discrimination.
We internalize it, we bottle it up, and we let it fester. Before long, our negative emotions begin to transform into negative energy. Negative energy (or feeling) that gets “configured” in the body and uploaded to our brains. In the brain these feelings are stored in little pockets that look like flower bulbs on the branch of a tree. When you tap into memories that trigger these negative feelings, your brain secretes fluid and information from these bulbs – toxic fluids.
When you harbor negative emotions, foster animosity, or just plain live in fear – you are literally sending messages to and from your brain that can KILL you!
But it’s not too late – it’s never too late. George Eliot says, “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” Perhaps you might have been happier if…. Perhaps you might have been wealthier if…. Perhaps you might have been smarter if…. No matter what it is, it is never too late. But the first thing you must do is CHANGE YOUR MIND.
And by all means, don’t lie to yourself. Don’t say you’ve forgiven Suzy Mae, but whenever you talk about her your eye twitches. And don’t tell everyone else (and yourself) about how over it you are because you’re hoping if you say it enough it will be true. You aren’t fooling anyone, especially not your brain. All that anger, bitterness, resentment, detachment and fear (yes, fear!) are being stored in those little brain bulbs. So go within and CHANGE YOUR MIND!!!
Change your mind about everything. Refuse to see the world in the way you always have. Stop looking without and go within. Ask the hard questions of yourself and your life. Whom haven’t you forgiven? (Perhaps it’s yourself). Whom or what are you still blaming for the path your life has taken? Have you relinquished your control? Do you feel you have no choices?
No matter what you always have a choice! You may not like the consequences or the outcomes likely to be associated with your choices, but you still have the choice. The key is learning to trust yourself and your decisions so that your outcomes are what you desire them to be.
The key is to live your life at ease!
As always, wishing you well,
Kiki B., The WILD Side
PS –Laugh with someone. Smile when you think you shouldn’t. Dance like no one is watching. Love like you’ll never get hurt. Give without keeping score. Remember that you are enough. Live, love, grow. At ease!