I change my mind

A mind is indeed a terrible thing to waste.  The beauty of thought, of perception, and of knowing is something truly divine. And to disregard it is nothing short of a waste.

As you can probably imagine, I love the idea of self-help and self-actualization.  I think our purpose in life is to be a blessing to others, to pay it forward.  But in a world filled with so much hate, anger, despair, and regret it is clear to me that we may not know how to help ourselves and we certainly aren’t all that actualized.  Well, I think it’s time we changed our minds.

So what should we change our minds about?  Anything. Everything.

Every morning and every evening I meditate.  I study a devotion, and I ask myself how I can achieve that task today.  The answer is usually the same: Change your mind.

If we choose to see things the same way all the time, chances are our responses to those things will never change.  If we choose not to engage in new activities and foster new experiences, the likelihood is slim that anything about our lives will be different.

But when we choose to change our minds – when we choose to change the way we filter information in – there is a 100% guarantee that what filters out on the other side will be different.  Better yet, when we filter our experiences through love, understanding, and acceptance what comes out on the other side usually looks a lot more like what we were hoping for.

If you’re happy being miserable, that’s your prerogative; just don’t expect me to wallow in misery with you. Change your mind about that – or don’t, if it will make you more miserable knowing that I’m happy.

Each day as I change my mind about myself, I find that my mind also changes about the world around me.  Things don’t seem as bad (or as good) as I thought they were.  I find it easier to shape my experiences and make my life something more desirable for me (and even others around me).

Just for today, I challenge you to change your mind…about anything and about everything.

Wishing you well,
Kiki B., The WILD Side

PS – Need some help “changing your mind?” Check out these helpful texts:


Until Today by Iyanla Vanzant

Self-Seduction by Mikki Taylor

In the Meantime by Iyanla Vanzant

Will the real women…Please stand up! by Ella Patterson


Pedagogy of the Oppressed by Paulo Friere

The Cultural Intelligence Series by David A. Livermore

The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren

One Day My Soul Just Opened Up by Iyanla Vanzant

Black Macho and the Myth of the Superwoman by Michele Wallace

Native Son by Richard Wright

From Brotherhood to Manhood by Franklin Anderson

Standing in the Shadows by John Head

White Like Me by Tim Wise


Deal Breakers by Bethany Marshall

The Power of a Praying Husband by Stormie Omartian

The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian

Money and Careers

The Money Book for the Young, Fabulous & Broke by Suze Orman

Women and Money by Suze Orman

Working while Black by Michelle T. Johnson

The Girl! Money Series by Glinda Bridgforth

The Cultural Intelligence Series by David A. Livermore


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